What is Love?

What is love? Constantly throughout the week I have been confronting myself with the enormous notion of Love! What does it mean to love somebody? I suddenly realise that what I have termed as love is no more then selfish search for self gratification. That is to say, it's SELFISHNESS working on the inside of me, seeking to satisfy my needs.

When will I grow up from selfishness? Perhaps I’ll still be learning till the day I die but at least I’ll try. Been reading “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” and I was enlightened about many ideas I have regarding dating that seem inappropriate now. Who would have thought that our 1^st kiss should be left at the altar? Nobody I know practice that. Maybe we have conformed to the world after all as we are so constantly being exposed to the showing of affection all over the various sources of media. We are so conformed that we did not realise that our morals have slacken to an extent that anything not beyond sex is alright. Is that true for you? Well I must say both Joshua Harris (the author) and I share rather similar conservative standards.

So far I have never held any ladies hands and thought that even for holding hands would be intimate. I always view kissing alright but guess I was wrong after he showed readers that the person they’re kissing may be someone else’s spouse someday. How would you like someone to caress your spouse to be? Never right?

It has become evident to me even in my own life that people are constantly seeking for love. BGRs taking place at a much younger age from my time and I’m not that old. I too myself do that, getting into one at what? Sec one! How ridiculous, now that I think back. Even for the Christians, it does seem like the invisibility of our God hinder us from seeing the realness of His love in the midst of us. Yes even for me. Do not misunderstand, I have no doubt that God loves me but recognizing it subconsciously is rather difficult.

There have only been one incident when His love so overwhelmed me that as I was praying I uttered “I love you” subconsciously not knowing what I say until I took a paused. That occurred during the periods of my A levels. Loving subconsciously? Sometimes the pastor may ask you to repeat after him that you love Jesus, and when you pray and you tell yourself you love Him, that’s conscious loving. And loving someone takes commitment! You game for that level of commitment or is it just plain talk? Cheng En, wake up your idea! Love is not seeking for yourself but looking out for those that you love! WAKE UP YOUR IDEA!

To those whom I've so selfishly seek self gratification, I'm sorry!

Being loved deeply gives you strength but loving someone deeply takes courage! – Pst Don